Is male orgasm denial harmful?
Here we are at the start of No-Nut-November, so I thought this would be an appropriate topic right now.
Let’s get one common misconception out of the way from the beginning. A male will suffer no permanent physical damage by being denied an orgasm for any length of time. Even an indefinite length of time. Even a permanent one. The male body (though simple in complexity when compared to the superior Female anatomy) has a built-in mechanism to take care of pent up sperm and spermatic fluid that has been trapped inside the male reproductive organs for a lengthy period of time. When denied release for a long period of time, the sperm and fluids will build up to maximum capacity, causing the male a great deal of sexual frustration and genital discomfort, but eventually, this build up will take care of itself by way of re-absorption into his body. This re-absorption process is too slow to provide a denied male any feeling of relief or decreased pressure in his swollen testes that an ejaculation would give him, so the ache in his testicles (or blue balls) will not lessen at all, and he will always feel as on the verge of bursting, but such an extended ejaculation denial will not cause him any actual physical harm.
For Women who prefer to give their denied males some occasional release (without the relief of a full ejaculation), there are always ruined orgasms (which will release fluid from his body without providing the sexual relief of a full ejaculation), but this should always be up to Her to decide the method and timing of any such release. That is, if she chooses to allow him any release at all.
If the male has in mind just some mild chastity play, then She should be prepared for the possibility of him trying to top from the bottom along with some bitching and whining when he hasn’t been allowed to cum for only three days.
Long term orgasm denial should always be the eventual goal, it might not be appropriate immediately for everyone, at least not at the beginning of his chastity training anyway. She may want to slowly work up to longer term male orgasm denial, with longer and longer periods of denial between each scheduled release, pushing him beyond the limits he thinks he is capable of, until finally, he understands that he will rarely be permitted to cum again.
For example, if She tells him he must go a week without any type of release, then the next time, She should extend that time to ten days or maybe even two weeks with no release. It’s then important that She emphatically sticks to to that predetermined time frame, with no questioning, begging, whining or recourse allowed on his part.
Her steadfast resolve will fulfill his hardwired need to submit to Her and his deep-seated and unspoken desire to be told ‘NO’.
The longer the male is denied, the longer he will be able to maintain the anticipation of sexually serving the Female that he so secretly craves, and the more desperately he will need to serve Her, as his sexual frustration and dopamine levels saturate his brain.
The longer the male is denied, the longer She can reap the emotional and physical rewards that naturally come with keeping Her male chaste, all the while keeping Her work-load of maintaining his chastity to a bare minimum.
So to answer the burning question of how often should he be allowed to cum? Initially, longer than he thinks is reasonable. Eventually he will come to the realization that the definition of ‘reasonable’ is best left up to Her. Even if what She thinks is reasonable turns out to be months of orgasm denial.
Male orgasm denial for extended periods of time can be best achieved by requiring him to wear a locked male chastity device (spikes optional). Gradually extending the lengths of time between release as you work him up to longer and longer sessions of orgasm denial. As for my husband, I made him wait a week the first time, then two, then three, and so on. And now I could not be happier. I have all the orgasms for both of us now and he gets all his pleasure by serving me in any and every way I demand (and I demand a lot) and by giving me as many orgasms as I want. And I’m having more orgasms (and better orgasms) than I ever was before I locked up his cock in a chastity cage.
He is usually required to wait at least a month between full orgasms. His cage now only comes off when I want. I usually allow a couple unlocks a week for “cleaning”. The “cleaning” sessions actual provide him a little relief of the pressure in his balls. The usual process is to unlock him and give him a long teasing and edging session, sometimes ending with a ruined orgasm, sometimes multiple ruins. After the session is when the cleaning starts, since he is usually messy from lube, precum, and cum from his ruined orgasms. We usually get in the shower and I use lots of soap and make sure to clean his cock and balls completely, and give him a couple more edges during the cleaning. Then some cold water to get his erection to go down, so I can squeeze him back into his cage.
When the time comes that I decide he is allowed an orgasm, it becomes al all day event. Lot’s of teasing, I try to keep him as hard as possible in his cage all day. Towards the end of the day it turns into several hours of an intense teasing session for him. I have more orgasms than I can count and after hours of edging he is finally allowed to have one. He describes them as the most intense amazing orgasms ever.