If you’ve been with your special someone for a long time, you know how repetitive sex can become. Experimentation no longer seems possible?
If you are looking to bring a little spice and maybe some kink into your relationship, we suggest trying some of these things with your partner:
- Silent Sex
- No moaning. No talking. Just a whole lot of inward and outward motion.
- Loud Sex
- Go bonkers. Be as loud as you can.
- Talk dirty.
- Turn up the heat by describing what you are feeling or what you are going to do to them before you do it. Or teasing words about what they might like, “I bet you really want me to ____” or are aren’t allowed to do “You are not allowed to _______ yet, maybe if you are good.” Here are some more ideas?
- No holds barred, crazy sex in a five star hotel.
- Treat yourselves to a night in a luxury hotel, and make sure to have lots of sex throughout!
- Masturbate
- Watch each other masturbate and get off!
- Whisper your naughty fantasy into his ear – while you’re in public. The wait to get home will be delicious torture!
- Selflessness
- Devote an entire day to just pleasing your partner. From oral sex to erotic massage, do everything. Make sure they devote a day to you too.
- Bondage
- If this seems a little too extreme for you start simple, wrap a tie or scarf around their wrists and secure them to a chair and go down on them. Or ask to be tied to the headboard and let them have their way with you. You might be surprised how being tied up and controlled can actually let you feel free to fully experience what is happening. Or how being in complete control of someone focuses your attention on them and provides you with a feeling of power.
- Dedicate a full day to just trying out different sex positions.
- Have anal sex
- Add another entrée to the menu: anal sex. With the right preparation and mindset, taking things to the back can be the kinky sex idea you’ll thank god you tried.
- Watch porn together, and try to recreate what is happening.
- Go to a movie theatre and touch each other in the dark.
- Try role-playing.
- It gives you a chance to let loose and act in a way that you wouldn’t necessarily behave ordinarily, and that’s incredibly freeing. Make them your slave, get them to play a nurse or a plumber. Whatever ideas that get you going. Role-play is a harmless way to live out a fantasy and get kinky.
- No Sex
- Seems wrong, but hear us out. Take penetration out of the equation and focus only on foreplay. Removing the main entrée will let you enjoy all of the side dishes even more.
- Play out each other’s fantasy. No matter how kinky and weird.
- Try a remote controlled sex toy.
- Get something such as a remote controlled vibrating buttplug, or panties. Imagine making your partner squirm in public at your will. Interesting right? They even have ones now which connect to your phone and can be controlled by your partner anywhere in the world.
- Give your partner multiple orgasms. Because they deserve it!
- Blindfolds
- Blindfolds increase all other senses and make for an interesting experience.
- No panties
- Go out to a fancy dinner and wear a dress without panties and let him know in the most creative way. Or wear them there and take them off in the bathroom and discreetly hand them to him when you come back to the table. To take things up another notch, a buttplug can really add to the excitement.
- Get wet in the rain together.
- Give your partner a lap dance.
- Go to a strip club together.
- Trust us, this will get you both hot and bothered and when you get home It’s going to be a lot of fun.
- Try out edible underwear.
- Go skinny dipping.
- You don’t have to hunting for a water body, do it in a pool.
- Oral sex
- All too often this gets treated as a quick little bit of foreplay. For a change make it the main event, have an oral only night.
- Try nipple clamps.
- Dress up
- Find the kinkiest of outfits and seduce him. Babydoll lingerie set, sexy teacher, nurse, maid, schoolgirl, or whatever turns him on. Try to keep the majority of the outfit on, such as wearing your high heels the entire time you’re having sex.
- Read erotica to each other, but no sex, or maybe…
- Take a shower together.
- Welcome your partner home with no clothes on. (Make sure they are alone.)
- Wake up your partner with your mouth down there.
- Have sex in front of a mirrror.
- Try a no hands policy.
- Send a racy text.
- Be as brave as your vocabulary permits. You can send a simple, suggestive message – “I can’t wait to touch you tonight,” for example – or something more bold, such as a step by step guide to what you’ll do to them and what they should do to you. Need ideas? We’ve got them here.
- Sneak into a dressing room and…
- Have some strap-on fun
- Getting a strap-on and penetrating your partner is a whole new experience that switches up the dynamic and lead to some sex sessions you’ll never forget. If you’re into the idea, talk to your partner. As always, healthy open communication is key.
- Get a sex pillow
- Sometimes angles can make all the difference. With a sex pillow, all kinds of new angles become available and the same-old, same-old suddenly feels anything but ordinary.
- Lounge in lingerie
- Wearing underthings that make you feel confident and sexy is teh ultimate self-tunr-on. Even if you’re wearing nothing but sweats around the house, slip on something that makes you ready for action underneath – it will be a sexy surprise for both of you.
- In the fridge
- Bringing food int he bedroom can be oh so hot. Make an ice cream sundae, but rather thatn top your vanilla confection with hot sauce or whipped cream, rub a dab on your lips or neck and ask your lover to lick it off. As things heat up, paint some of your erogenous zones with deliciousness they’ll lap up with pleasure.